Published by the Evangelical Church Library Association
Your marriage isn’t about you, or even about your spouse, the couple has learned. Your marriage is about servin gGod and proclaiming Jesus’ power to a world in need of hope. It’s a covenant made promising unconditional love. If your hearts and marriage are in the right place, this covenant relationship brings both spouses closer to God.
So what are the secret ingredients to a lasting marriage?
The first is prioritization, say Ryan and Selena. Put God first, then your spouse, then your children. Everything else should come after these three most important members of your life. Be intentional about making time for each other and that investment will yield a closer marriage.
The second component is communication. Don’t just talk; listen to your spouse. Be aware of the signals he or she is sending out, not only through words but also through body language, tone, and timing. Seek the real issues hiding behind frustrations he or she maybe communicating. Be quick to hear, be slow to speak, and be slow to anger.
Perhaps the most striking element of this couple’s advice, their secret to keeping the “spark” in their marriage, is curiosity. Don’t lose curiosity about getting to know your spouse. Whether you’ve been together for one year or fifty, there is always more to learn about each other. Remember how excited you were to get to know one another on the first date? That flame of excitement can continue to burn as long as you desire to discover more about each other.
From finances to intimacy, this book covers the tough topics. And, with the help of God, couples can use this book as a way to facilitate conversation and strengthen their marriages.